15 Feb Ebony Buckner
Ebony Buckner is very blessed to be the mother to 4 kids and the wife of 26years to her best friend. She is a working house wife who is passionate about helping others and her family. She works for Oakbend Medical Center, which is a non-profit community hospital in Ft. Bend County – Texas. At Oakbend they serve ALL people regardless of their ability to pay and Ebony contributes to their mission by serving as the Community Health Worker for the hospital, connecting underprivileged patients and families to resources within the community. In her spare time Ebony loves to cook, entertain and spend time with her family and friends. She is a faithful believer in Christ and attributes all of her life’s accomplishments to Him.
Check out our interview with this #MommyMaven below…
BossUpGIRL! Co.: Tell us the funniest “mom story” that has happened to you recently?
#MommyMaven: The funniest thing recently is picking my youngest up from school. I’d sent her to school dressed up as an old lady for 100 days of school. Her head was full of curlers, she had on glasses and a nice sweater. After school, she came out of the school with her hair hanging in her face, missing the curlers, glasses gone and sweater hanging off her shoulder. She basically looked very haggard. I was in shock because she wasn’t the cute, put together old lady I sent to school. But her she came running happily over to me as other moms looked on and yelled, ‘ hi mommy, I look just like you!!’
BossUpGIRL! Co.: As a mom juggling kids, husband and a career, what do you do for self-care or “me time” ?
#MommyMaven:As you can imagine I am always busy. Even though I also work outside the home, I am still the main homemaker in our home. So after 8hours of work, I come home and head right to the kitchen to prepare dinner, run kids to some activity, help with homework etc. So my favorite ‘me time’ activity is just zoning out at the end of every night with a good book. I enjoy the quiet and peaceful time before bed curled up with a glass of wine and my book.
BossUpGIRL! Co.: #DateNightGoals: How do you make your marriage a priority, while balancing home and kids?
#MommyMaven:Finding time to spend with my husband is always a juggling game. Most nights we are just exhausted from the demands of the day and so going out is usually at the bottom of the list. However, at least once a week we slip away alone together to reconnect. Even if it’s only a grocery run, the time together allows us to talk and enjoy each other.
BossUpGIRL! Co.: #RaisingYoungAdults You have a son in college who just turned 21 and a daughter entering college next year. What is your biggest fear? What lesson did you learn with your son in college that you will share with your daughter?
#MommyMaven:it’s true our kids are growing up. It’s hard to believe we’ll have 2 kids in college next year. As a close knit family, one of my early fears was not having our son at home with us. We had to trust our early guidance was enough for him to get by. These last several years with him in college have been very good. He maintains an A average and we have been so proud of how motivated and driven our son has been.With our daughter preparing to move out, we are more confident in our parenting. We know our daughter will succeed and do well. So we don’t have those same fears. But because she is a girl, I do caution her to be aware in all situations. I fear for her vulnerability and innocence. My son has proven helpful on advice on how his sister is to present herself. So that has been a relief. Because we talk about her college experience and our expectations frequently, we are confident in our daughters abilities and excited for her next phase in life.
#MOMMYMAVEN TIPS & ADVICE:
Boss Up GIRL! Co.: What tip would you give for staying organized?
#MommyMaven:Staying organized is about communication. With so many schedules, we can not do last minute. My kids know, we must be aware of all projects, trips and requests at least a week in advance. I love technology and use it faithfully to keep track of all our activities. My calendar is a lifesaver.
BossUpGIRL! Co.: What advice would you give to moms over 40 raising young kids today?
#MommyMaven:The best part about being an ‘older’ more seasoned mom is that we just have more experience to pull from. I’m way more chill with my younger kids because I know the small stuff really doesn’t matter. I was more of a helicopter mom with my older 2 kids, which caused stress and anxiety. I’ve allowed my younger 2 kids to be more independent and responsible. This has taken a lot of pressure off of us as parents.
*BONUS TIP*: Provide any tip or piece of advice that you believe would be valuable to another “Mommy Maven”
#MommyMaven:My tip to all parents is just to trust your self. Everyone has advice on how you should do this or that, but as the parent- you have everything you need inside yourself. Kids need you not the things- so choose love and time and all the rest will fall into place. And as cliche’ as it sounds, the days are long but the years fly by. So enjoy your babies while you can!
Thanks Ebony for sharing your story, tips and advice with our #BossUpGIRL community! We are always so inspired by the level of pride and effort you put into being the ULTIMATE #MommyMaven. Today we celebrate you 🙂
Love, Jasmine, Tyra & the entire #BossUpGIRL Squad!